It happened again. That icky dream. I know where I need to go but I don’t know how. I’m lost. But this time, something is very different.
I ask for directions.
I love hearing about people’s dreams (and as a my reader, you are forced to hear about mine occasionally) because I know they are working through something. And this time, is no different. I am working through something. Building my coaching practice. But this time, my usual nocturnal frustration of dead ends and confusion, resulted in direction.
The day before my dream, I had asked a dominant type Seven, who recently came into my life, for some business advice. She enthusiastically shared her techniques on LinkedIn and wholeheartedly offered continued support reminding me I am always welcome to tap into her as a resource and guide.
This time in my dream, a woman is by my side (my sister representing the sisterhood I’m finding as I build my business) and a bartender (someone upbeat and social) showed me the way - she was my muse. This was my new Seven friend. Amazing. How cool is that?!
She is what Russ Hudson refers to as my missing piece.
Not her as a person but as a representation.
The missing piece in the Enneagram is the high side of your stress line. When you incorporate these positive aspects in your life, you truly come into your own, into your essential qualities because your gifts need the support of another type. It is a perfect example of how we need one another for growth. You can’t just stay stuck in your patterning and expect to grow. You need the other type (in fact, we need all types, but that is another blog for another day).
The contracted introvert, stay-in-my-lane, Five in me can’t grow without the Seven. As a Seven, my newfound friend represents everything my conservative nature longs for and craves, I dare say, has the potential: zest for life, adventure, possibilities, curiosity, and spontaneity. This potential is in me, like an alter ego with all the superpowers.
But more importantly, this potential is in YOU.
When someone in life inspires you, take a good look at exactly what is inspiring you. What do you see in them? Is it possible you don’t see this in yourself? Is it also possible, that others see this in you? What is it about them that makes them the BOMB to you? I guarantee these qualities are in YOU and they are the blueprint for YOUR potential.
This looks different for different people. A wishy-washy person may want to become more decisive. A challenger may want to be more vulnerable. Someone who deems themselves “too emotional” may want those emotions more directed. Someone who is anxious may want to feel more peace.
This is what it means when I say the Enneagram is a roadmap for growth to your Essence. I am able to see clearly the path forward. That missing piece slips into place and everything else feels complete.