Ah, the Hyper-Achiever Saboteur. This character belongs predominantly to Enneagram Type 3, the Achiever. This type has many beautiful strengths - driven, pragmatic, adaptable, goal-oriented and self-directed. The Type 3 is also capable of growing self and others. When the Sage is present, Type 3s are inspiring and help others with meaningful growth. But when Hyper-Achiever shows up, things change.
According to PQ Intelligence™, Hyper-Achiever is dependent on constant performance and achievement for self-respect and validation. When this Saboteur is at play, one is focused on external validation, attention and acceptance by others. If this is your main Saboteur, you can suffer from workaholism and lose touch with emotional needs. The Hyper-Achiever is competitive and image-conscious. It tends to cover up insecurities and use chameleon tactics to impress others. This keeps people at a safe distance.
Thoughts of the Hyper-Achiever include “I must be the best at what I do,” “emotions get in the way of performance,” “my worthiness is based on my success.” This Saboteur believes it is important to feel successful and fears intimacy and vulnerability as others would find out about the Hyper-Achiever’s imperfections. The lies this Saboteur tells us is that life is about achieving, a good image equates in results, and that feelings are a distraction. The childhood message may have been that love is conditional and I am loved for my achievements. Parents may have been absent.
If this describes most of your negative thoughts, you may be a Type 3. There are many strategies to overcome these thoughts and actions but it is important to start with the self-command of recognizing when your behaviors are trending towards this Saboteur which the Mental Fitness workshop beginning 10/12 will help with considerably. If you aren’t sure this is your main Saboteur, it is always a good idea to get typed. I am (and will continue to) offering a FREE Enneagram Sessions. You just need to take a couple of assessments and together we will uncover your Enneagram type. Then the real growth begins. Don’t put your head in the sand. Book your FREE appointment today.
WEEKLY ENNEAGRAM GROUP COACHING
Keep your eyes out for my weekly Enneagram Group Sessions coming soon. Once you are typed, you can jump into these workshops and take a deeper dive in a group setting to learn more about what is making you tick. I will be working out the details soon but in the meantime, get typed so you can take advantage of this affordable group coaching option.