According to PQ Intelligence™, our Saboteurs are the nasty voices in our heads, wreaking havoc on our minds and stress levels. This week, I am going to explore the Stickler.
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The Stickler is associated with Enneagram Type 1. The Stickler seeks perfectionism and a need for order and organization too far. The Stickler offers a way of quieting the constant voice of self-judgment and fear of others’ judgments by trying to be perfect. Being punctual, methodical and a perfectionist might seem self-serving but these characteristics (as with all Saboteurs) are highly destructive. The lies of the Stickler include “it is up to me to fix whatever mess I encounter,” “this is my personal obligation,” and “I know how things should be done and must do the right thing.”
This leads to constant frustration and disappointment with self and others for not living up to the ideals and standards. The Stickler is a source of ongoing anxiety and frustration. It is how an Enneagram Type 1 expresses anger. The Stickler comes across as irritable, tense, opinionated, and sarcastic. Thoughts of this Saboteur include “right is right and wrong is wrong,” “if you can’t do it perfectly, don’t do it at all,” and “others simply aren’t as capable as me.”
Enneagram Type 1’s strengths include high ideals and standards. Type 1s are highly capable of leading self and others to live and work based on clear guiding principles. They are also incredibly self-disciplined and have a direct and discerning communication style.
You may not be a type 1, but if you know one, now you know why they behave the way they do and it will be helpful for you to give them some space and grace.
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